Maybe if both of you (or all of you) think of it as sex, then it's sex whether you're having fun or not. That clears up the problem of sex that's consented to but not wished for or enjoyed. Unfortunately, it begs the question again, only worse: Now you have to mesh different people's vague and inarticulate notions of what is and isn't sex and find the place where they overlap. Too messy.
Sex can't only mean penetration of a woman by a man now can it? Whether its about bragging rights or continued cordial relationships with friends after a intimate evening, what exactly constitutes sex is important. This blog posting tries to unravel the age old question - what consitutes sex? Sphere: Related Content